A question that I get asked a lot in the swinging lifestyle is about body types and beauty. Some examples:
“I’m not thin or beautiful will anyone be attracted to me?”
“I’m not a size 2 or a size 10; no one will want a fat girl.”
“What if my penis isn’t big enough?”
“I don’t look like a model”
Let me start by saying Pshhhha to all of these. If there is one thing I’ve learned after the past 5 years swinging it’s that there is someone or MANY some ones for everyone. Don’t let poor body image ruin your good time.
I am a larger girl and was once pretty nervous about getting naked in front of anyone but Mr. Scribbens. As a matter of fact our first couple, well they were downright hotties! Talk about nerves! I thought “why would he want me when he has a wife like that?” What I found out was it’s all about variety. That’s why we swing in the first place isn’t it? To experience something new and different than what we are used to? Now mind you NOT everyone is going to be compatible but I’ll save that speech for another blog.
I’ve realized that the majority of people out there swinging are looking past a few stretch marks and a fatter ass. They look at the whole package. Things like being showered and well kempt are much more important. Do you take pride in your appearance? Do you have fresh breath and a sense of humor? Can you hold a conversation? If so I’d say you have a hell of a good chance at finding swinging partners.
But lets go back to the worried about weight issue ladies. I’ve discovered a little secret. Most men don’t care and in fact most of them like a woman with a little more meat on her bones and the natural boobs that go with them, just sayin’. I can honestly tell you that my weight has not prevented me from having a good time and meeting plenty of lovers both female and male. So in the hopes that this eases the fears of some of you ladies out there I will end this blog with a quote from one of my favorite singers… Prince.
“…Honey them hips is gone
That’s alright, I clock ’em that way
Remind me of something James used to say…
“I like ’em fat”
“I like ’em proud”
“Ya gotta have a mother for me”
Now move your big ass ’round this way
So I can work on that zipper, baby
Tonight you’re a star
And I’m the big dipper… “
Bigger Love 