I just read this article at Adult Industry News about Scott Janke, the Town Manager of Fort Meyers Beach, FL, who was fired because it was discovered by some nosy self-proclaimed do-gooder that his wife is a porn star working under an assumed name. I personally have a few problems with this:
How did the wannabe do-gooder discover she was in porn? Was he/she using a city-supplied computer or city-supplied bandwidth to surf porn on the Net and suddenly said to themselves “Jesus Christ, that looks like Scott’s wife!” Obviously they knew somehow and why isn’t THAT an issue?
Second, City Council member Bob Raymond stated “In these types of jobs, trust is a very important thing. If you lose that, you’re losing a big thing.” How is Mrs. Janke being in porn a trust issue? Is she going to sell top secret town information to Ron Jeremy? Oh yeah, because you have sex with a man other than your husband, and your husband allows it, both of you are now untrustworthy. You can’t be trusted with town business, money or town secrets – like who’s fucking who, and let’s face it, statistically speaking half of those on the City Council are cheating on their spouse.
So lets say that someone else on the council like huge dildos… Do they get fired because they “deviate” from the “norm”? What if one of the councilmen like to dress-up in woman’s clothes in private? What if one of the men like to fuck their wife in the ass, or one of the women like it in the ass and anal sex is viewed as “deviant behavior” and offends another City Council member? Do they get fired?
The possibilities of such judgments by others is endless.
Now I’m going out on a limb here, but I’d bet if their uncovered activities simply included some threesomes with hot chicks there wouldn’t be a problem. But, because another man if fucking Mr. Janke’s wife, nevermind getting paid for, there is where the behavior is seen as less than acceptable.
Lucretia MacEvil and I have run into this ourselves. We had a coworker at a company we both worked at that knew we had somewhat of an open relationship. It was all because when she worked with this same person at another company she was coming back from lunch one day when he and another guy were also walking in and he asked her “You and Lucius have been married for 6 years, how do you and keep things interesting?” and she answered with a smirk “We throw another girl into the mix every now and then.” Word spread fast through her office and I was viewed as a god by the other men. I mean I got to fuck my wife AND her hot girlfriends! Eventually we all worked together and they never knew anything additional because as one of the guys put it “I have no problem mowing my neighbor’s grass, but nobody mows mine.” If he had known that she fucked other men also she would have been instantly labeled a “slut” and we both would have lost our jobs. Other women = cool. Other men = deviant and loss of job.
Amazing how the male mind works and how well men have brainwashed many women over centuries of conditioning to believe the same and label their sisters as “sluts” for being sexual beings. As Erica Jong said “Woman is doomed to live in a double bind which is at once psychological and physical: she is damned for doing the very thing that keeps the race alive. Man, for his part, is damned for partaking of that guilty sexuality, and doomed to wander the world turning virgins into whores, then cursing his fate in having no true mate to love.”
This whole case has little to do with “right” or “appropriateness” and all to do with narrow-mindedness and judgment based on insecurities and fears of those afraid of their own sexuality much less their partners.
It vividly illustrates though how any couple who has a relationship outside of the monogamous male/female type can be discriminated against at work and lose their job, lifestyle and security for simply being “different” than their superiors are. It is discrimination, just like sexual orientation or racial. What goes on in a person’s life outside of work should not be an issue at work unless it is something like robbing banks or selling meth or molesting children. Unfortunately though, many states are “right-to-work” states and people can be fired for no reason other than “because” without any recourse. Until that changes there will truly not be any equality in any workplace.