I came across this blog through my Google alerts and I just love this quote. Nicole may just be America’s smartest girl.
A polyamorous relationship is HARDER work and requires much more trust, honesty, communication and personal responsibility than a run of the mill monogamous relationship. It is the K2 of dating.
I constantly hear from closed-minded, fearful outsiders that open relationships are just “wanting your cake and eating it too” and “It’s the easy way out for people who don’t want any responsibility”. But Nicole said it very succinctly, open relationships are MORE WORK than monogamous relationships. You have more people to contend with than just one. You have more people’s feelings to contend with. You have more people to split your time amongst. It’s more work all the way around, and definitely not for someone who’s just looking for an easy way out of responsibility. It’s more work and more responsibility than a monogamous relationship.
I know, I lived in a monogamous relationship for 20 years between my first wife and Lucretia MacEvil; and for over five years now Lucretia MacEvil and I have had an open relationship of both a sexual nature and sometimes emotional nature. Therefore I can say with authority, an open relationship is not for the weak of heart or someone trying to dodge responsibility. Adding just one more person to the relationship instantly doubles the work and the responsibility, and adding more just multiplies it exponentially.
~ Lucius Scribbens