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Questions & Answers about open relationships

This is Mrs. Scribbens’ (otherwise knows at Lucretia MacEvil) first direct contribution to this blog.  I think you’ll find her thoughts sexy, insightful, and full of fun.  ~ Mr. Scribbens

It’s amazing to think that summer is over and now we are going into the autumnal months when things start to warm up in the bedroom. It’s these months where I find myself on the prowl looking for new and exciting experiences and sometimes even a new toy or partner.  But my favorite thing is Mr. Scribbens and anal sex!

It’s hard to believe but there was a time when I was a sexual prude. I am not exaggerating at all! There was a time when oral sex was a taboo let alone something I would actually enjoy and when anal sex was the biggest sexual fear I had.

Now some of you out there may relate to my plight and understand the trials of growing up religiously overloaded and sexually stifled believing our bodies to be toxic and terrible human vessels destined for hell if we used them improperly. I am now pleased to report I no longer have those belief systems or fears.

Now it wasn’t am immediate transformation and I should start by telling you that it was a long and frustrating wait for Mr. Scribbens but with a lot of patience and even more lube he made his way to my anal epiphany and taught me what real pleasure can be!

The first step in his up hill battle was a gift I should recommend to any woman looking to explore her anal sexuality.  The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino.  This is what opened my eyes and mind to the possibilities.  This book really eased some of those back of my mind thoughts like, “WHAT IF I POOP” “What if it hurts” “What if I poop?” The key is to have a partner that is willing to take his time and really get you worked up. He’s got to want it enough to be tender and go slowly, lube,
being relaxed, more lube and lots of patience.

It’s like finding the holy grail of orgasms I tell ya what! If you think that the only threesomes worth having are Male Female Female… just try kneeling yourself into position for some DP anal and vaginal at the same time ladies – HOOOO YEAHHHH it’s amazing.

My next search is for a good toy to play with anally. But I urge any of you out there with any reservations about anal sex is to educate yourselves and read up, communicate your desires and fears with your partner and take it slow and easy!

~ Lucretia MacEvil

How can I convince my partner to have a threesome or to swing? This is a question you see allot of, simply because many people have group sex fantasies but are in relationships where their partner either doesn’t share the fantasy or is totally unreceptive to hearing anything about their partner’s sexual fantasies because of personal insecurities and jealousy. So I thought I’d address it in this post.

The fact is you can’t convince, coerce or manipulate anyone into doing something they don’t want to do without making them resent you and screw-up your relationship with them. All you can do is in a non-threatening manner express to them that this is one of your sexual fantasies and see where it goes from there. If they say it’s not theirs, than out of respect for them you have to drop the subject. If they say they’ve been thinking the same thing, than you can carry the conversation on further and talk about what it is about it that turns each of you on and what you’d like to do and what both of you are looking to get out of it.

Remember, if it doesn’t benefit the couple, it harms the couple. Opening-up your relationship sexually has to be a two-way street where both of you are getting something positive from the experience. If not, than you simply shouldn’t venture there. Every time you hear someone say “I tried this and it ruined our relationship” or “I have some friends that did this and now they are broken-up” that was the reason why. It wasn’t both of their fantasy, it was just one of theirs. And that person convinced, coerced or manipulated their partner into do it.

Those couples who are secure in themselves and thus their relationship and therefore aren’t prone to jealousy and share the same group sex fantasies have a wonderful time at including others in their sex life. Those that aren’t, don’t.

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