I was sitting at a stoplight today and a newer Dodge Ram 1500 pickup made a left hand turn in front of me. What caught my attention was that this truck was a 2-door pickup – no extended cab or 4-doors – because I really haven’t see a 2-door truck with no back seat in quite a while.  Almost all trucks these days have at least a half-door and a back seat, and most have four doors.

As the truck passed I thought to myself: “Why the fuck would you buy a 2-door truck, and especially one with no back seat? That is so 1980’s.”

But then I stopped myself and realized that I was basing this on MY needs and MY ideas of what kind of a truck I need for MY life.  With a family of five a 2-door truck with no back seat is just not practical.  I need SUV room in the passenger compartment with a bed to haul stuff in.  But this truck might have been just perfect for this guy; a 2-door, no back seat having truck might be just what HE wanted.

Then I thought: “Wow, it’s kind of like how people judge others relationships.”

We judge others relationship styles based on our own.  Our is right for us, therefore it must be right for everyone else. I mean, why would anyone not want to have a relationship JUST LIKE MINE? Mine is fantastic!

But what we don’t realize is that our relationship style is right for ourselves, just like for me a 4-door pickup with a big back seat is just right for me.  But, that doesn’t mean everyone wants the same truck I do.  For others, a 2-door pickup with just enough room for two might be just right.  And they probably can’t understand why I want a 4-door and want to have more than one other person with me.

Monogamists look at open relationships and polyamory and can’t figure-out why we want more than one other person in our truck life.  And polyamorists, swingers and others with open relationships can’t understand how monogamists can be happy without more people in their truck life.

The point being that what works for one person doesn’t work for another.  It doesn’t mean that their way, or your way is wrong, it just means they are right for that person.  They are different but equally valid.

Something to think about the next time you see someone  that’s not just like yourself and wonder why they aren’t.

Lucretia MacEvil and I have a good friend that although isn’t in a open relationship has been to several swinger parties over the years with us.  After the first party she went to she commented:

“Swinging is like the icing on the cake of marriage.  But if the cake underneath doesn’t have all the ingredients to make it solid, all the icing in the world won’t keep it from crumbling.”

Wiser words have seldom been said about an open relationship of any kind.

Compersion: When your wife tells you another man makes her feel like a giddy 16-year old girl and you’re happy for her.

I love this series on a polyamorous triad in Seattle, especially since it is a male-female-male triad, not the (in my opinion) overly-common female-male-female type that it seems 90% of poly couples are looking for (that will be another post).  You can watch the censored versions from the 3 Dog Pictures website that link to the YouTube versions, or you can mosey-on over to North West Live for the uncensored versions that YouTube will not play.

Also, be sure to check-out the music from the series by Christopher Bingham.

And don’t forget the swag http://www.printfection.com/familythewebseries/

Links:

3 Dog Pictures  http://www.3dogpictures.com/

North West Live Family Page http://www.nwlive.tv/family/

Christopher Bingham http://www.christopherbingham.com/

So I have what could be considered at least a part-time steady girlfriend.  She is a woman who we met several years ago when she was married and she and her husband were swinging.  We’ll call her “K” for future reference.  Lucretia MacEvil never had any interest in her husband, but she and I hit it off like gasoline and fire, it was all sparks and hot flame.  Maybe it’s cosmic being we share a birthday, 5 years apart and were even born in the same hospital.  I don’t know, I don’t care, all I do know is that I’ve always had the hots for her.

Well, we all became friends, but nothing other than heavy making-out (which I love) ever happened between her and I for oh… two years.  And that was almost two years ago.

About a year ago her and her husband got divorced.  No, it had nothing to do with swinging.  They had been together since high school, 18 years in all, and it that time a lot of bad water had flowed under the bridge and those problems just weren’t going to be solved.  She was miserable with him.  So she left.  She dated a guy for the last year and that ended badly on Valentine’s Day this year.

So recently her text messages to me increased and I asked if she’d like to get together to watch a movie or something.  About three weeks ago we did and the night with her was awesome.  We went out again the following week, but no sex, just being together.  Unfortunately she’s been too busy in the last week to go out but we talk every day.

Is she up for a poly relationship?  I don’t know.  I don’t think she is.  But I think she is up for a relationship of some kind.  She’s not planning on getting married anytime soon, she has kids and is wanting anymore, so her situation is different than Unobtanium’s.  She simply wants companionship at this point.  And that I can give her for as long as she needs it.

Lucretia and her are friends, Lucretia loves her and loves the fact that we are finally able to spend some quality time together.  So for now I’m just going to take it as it comes and not take any of it for granted.